Sometimes people say things- and they just don’t think! I am sure they are not intentionally saying offensive things but thy are also not thinking either!
So I was at the chiropractor’s office and checking out- when in walks a gal I haven’t seen in a little over a year. So she was asking about the wedding (anniversary coming up soon!) and if we were pregnant yet. (She knew we were already trying a month before the wedding.) We were both kind of on our way to things so it was a short synopsis- “Wedding was awesome! Loved every minute of it. No we’re not pregnant yet. Been a year- we’re on our 4th fertility treatment.” This all said with increasing tears in the eyes. (This was happening on the really super stressful crying day!)
She said the “nice things”- and went to her appointment. Then I turned back to the receptionist to pay my bill and she says “Oh you’re trying to get pregnant?” I don’t really know this receptionist (the other lady used to be the receptionist and since her departure last year- they have been rotating gals in and out and I have not gotten to know any of them!) so I just said- “Yep- but it’s not easy at my age.” And she looked at me all quizzical.. “I am older than I look. I am 41.” She was actually surprised at my age, which is always a nice thing to hear, but then the next thing out of her mouth… well it ruined it.
She said, rubbing her own pregnant belly, “Well if it’s any consolation, I am 39 and I am 23 weeks pregnant. I was sure I couldn’t get pregnant either and I got pregnant right away!” SERIOUSLY? I just looked at her like she had three heads- then I calmly and quietly said “No, it is not.” Then I took my products and left. She looked at the chiro’s wife who had just walked in- a bit funny- but I didn’t stay around to hear anything that may have been said.
Seriously? Are you giving me the child? Are you making me an offer I cannot refuse? Giving me a consolation prize? Because your unexpected joy at fertility will do NOTHING for my own feelings of pain, fear, inadequacy and sadness over the months of NOT being pregnant!
I truly believe she was trying to be nice- but I really wish people would THINK before they talk
When I got home and I was talking to my husband telling him the story he was aghast. He even told someone the story because he could not believe it either. LOL I love that he is always behind me and has my back!
Anyway- wanted to tell that little tid-bit of fun… LOL
Today was our blood test. We had a rough weekend. I hate that now we are going the true blood test route instead of the pee on a stick a couple of times.. it is just more “formal” and makes it more stressful I think. But whatever- it is what it is.
I’ll let you know.